Thank you for this. I am struggling with some of the same grief- I am not particularly attached to the birth name of my now son, but they rejected both of the names I had selected for a child had they been AMAB as “stupid” and “unpronounceable,” respectively — oh, the joys of teenagers — and their chosen new moniker is one that I have bad associations with. We have arrived at a truce of sorts, wherein I honor the spirit of the request without gritting my teeth over the name every time, but I honestly don’t know if it is worth more negotiation (my thought is a middle name, that family can use) or if I am hanging other griefs on the choice of name as a proxy.